Co-parenting

This is quite a difficult subject as I’ve had a bit of a rough time of it. When I first split with Alfie’s mum things were amicable, actually pretty nice, used to spend his birthday today. We’d get each other birthday presents and lots of nice stuff, I know Alfie liked it.

But that was not going to last, for obvious reasons. She moved on pretty fast, as she tends to do, which I was fine with but when I got a girlfriend everything changed. I was allegedly suddenly more bothered about my time with my girlfriend (I wasn’t, Alfie always came first). There were all these rules, he’s not allowed to meet her until this and that, can’t call her mummy etc etc, all the while she was off someone else. Weird double standards.

Suffice to say the presents stopped, the time together stopped, seeing him on Fathers Day, stopped. It’s like, what’s it like?? Err like she had to be controlling of everything that Alfie does to affect me.

Things got worse when I married Izzy. This was the last straw it would appear. I had to go to court to get access to Alfie it wasn’t really severe, no safeguarding issues, I never hit her or put her in danger etc we agreed to take it out of court. But then it got even worse when I had my two children with Iz. She once told Alfie that Rowan wasn’t his brother, he was just a good friend. Imagine how confusing that must have been for 5 1/2 year old Alfie, wondering “so is this my brother or my friend?”. There is no doubt they are brothers, they look exactly alike. Bloody handsome buggars (look like me obvs).

A bout of karma has hit her recently though which made me laugh. I won’t put it on here but if you send me a DM I’ll let you know. Kinda funny. I just don't understand why it all has to be so difficult, I'm not one of those dickhead dads who doesnt want anything to do with his kids, I WANT TO BE THERE. so whats the issue?

There’s more that’s happened that I couldn’t even begin to describe to you. If you’ve experience things like this and are struggling just let me know, I might be able to point you in the right direction.  Just remember, as a dad, if you’re named on the birth certificate and there’s no safeguarding issues then you have PARENTAL RIGHTS, you are just as entitled to see your kid(s) as much as she is.

This is a subject that I have a lot more on.. this is just scratching the surface believe me.

If you're having a difficult time please message me and I'll try my best to help you.  Much love as always, have a great day whenever you're reading these.

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